Homeschooling doesn’t always help your kids.

I think in some circumstances, homeschooling your kids is the best thing for them, but I also believe those circumstances are few and far between.  The majority of homeschooled kids aren’t homeschooled because the school districts around them suck, and the parents want their kids to get a decent education, it’s because the parents want to rigidly control what the kids learn and don’t learn, usually because of religious beliefs.  While legal, I think it’s horrid.  One of the most important aspects of school is social interaction with one’s peers.  It’s learning how to coexist and work with other kids, both boys and girls.  If you deprive your children of this, you’re stunting their emotional and social growth.  You’re making them awkward and backwards around other people their age, and believe me, kids are awkward enough — they don’t need you making it worse for them.

The Duggars are a great example of why this is a bad, bad idea.  Now, I could go on a rant about how they covered up their son sexually abusing their daughters, and how the parents and the pedophile son should be thrown in prison for the rest of their lives for that, but that’s for a different topic.  Neither parent has an education degree.  Neither parent is remotely qualified to teach anyone anything.  What’s more, the kids are not learning the same things students in a real school, at their age level, are learning.  I bet if you asked them to name 10 Shakespeare plays, they couldn’t.  If any of them wanted to go to college, not that they’d be allowed to because that’s sinful or some bullshit, but if any of them wanted to go to college, they probably wouldn’t be able to get in.  Their potential to have a future was snuffed out before they could even realize it was happening.

I feel bad for the majority of homeschooled kids because because I loved school, and I loved learning, and I hate seeing other people’s educational opportunities taken from them before they have a chance to use them.

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3 comments

  1. donotannoythewriter · June 27, 2016

    My niece’s daughter is home-schooled. She is almost 9-years-old, and attended school from the age of 5, as she was required to do. However, it soon became apparent that something was amiss. She became very withdrawn, did not want to interact with other children, hated the lessons unless one particular teacher was tutoring her, developed a stammer, and generally became a shadow of the little girl we all knew. The school tried to help; she went to a counsellor; eventually, she was sent to a child psychologist, who diagnosed her as suffering from a severe anxiety disorder. By the time she was 8-years-old, my niece and her husband talked about what was best, and, being unwilling to see their daughter go into meltdown day after day because she couldn’t cope, they decided to homeschool her. It has been damned hard work, let me tell you, but the results are clear. She is bright and beautiful, happy and healthy, her stammer has gone and although she still has anxiety attacks, they are far fewer and less severe. My niece is doing all she can to give her a good home education. She reads at an 11-year-old level, has beautiful writing, and is good at maths. They do science projects, talk about politics (she can even discuss the recent Brexit debacle); she teaches her history, cookery, art, religious studies (and not just concentrating on one religion either!) Her parents would love her to go to college and university, and they have all the hopes and dreams that a great many parents have for their children. They hope that she can go to school one day too, but for now, I fully agree with them that a 9-year-old’s mental health and happiness is more important.
    My own mother only attended school when she was 10. Until then she had no schooling or education whatsoever. You can read why here if you like. https://donotannoythewriter.wordpress.com/2016/05/01/beautiful-brave-and-strong/

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  2. uma197 · June 27, 2016

    you bring an interesting point. Yes there are many kids who face difficult situations. eg, anxiety, bullying and disability. And I am sure there are many parents who do a grand job trying to teach their kids and there are studies to state that some home schooled kids are far more advanced in their studies than those at school as there in one on one attention. But it still doesn’t solve the social aspects side. If they suffer from anxiety at school level then how do they perform when they grow up to enter university or even the work place?

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  3. dderbydave · June 28, 2016

    Home schooling takes an immense amount of effort I’d imagine. As much or more than working from home. I agree that in a few instances it is the right thing, such as the comment above but the parent would have to be diligent in developing the kids social life without the normal school setting.

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